My personal struggle and war against premature ejaculation
Introduction
Climaxing too soon fucking sucks. You took all the effort to talk to the girl, get her number, have her come out with you, and arouse her into sex. Then, within 30 seconds of penetration, it is all over. It can be both frustrating and humiliating. Is there anything a man can do about this?
Welcome to P.E. Tips, a place for Penis-Pumping Gym-Bros. I am O.J. Light. In these presentations, we talk about becoming a millionaire, having a threesome, getting a six-pack, and getting a bigger dick. I apply wisdom from people like Alex Hormozi, Dan Kennedy, and Good Looking Loser and report back on the results. Today, I am going to about my personal battle against premature ejaculation, and hopefully give you guys some ideas, strategies, and tactics to fight it yourself.
Disclaimer
But first, here is a quick disclaimer. None of this information is medical advice. Everything stated in this articles either comes from common beliefs within the male enhancement community or comes from my own subjective experience. Please conduct additional research into this subject. Also, please only seek medical advice from a licensed medical professional.
Also, the discussion and pictures in this article are not for sexual entertainment. Too often, I read comments about wanting to watch me use the Fleshlight for their own enjoyment. This is a self-improvement blog, not a porn blog. This idea brings me to my first point.
The Oath of Banging Babes
Experience is king. The best way to get better at sex is to have sex. Sometimes, men will use their ejaculation problems as a reason not to approach girls. In the past, I’ve thought, “I will start hitting on girls after I am able to do 5000 strokes.”
This is sexual anxiety. I am most guilty of this. In truth, you will never be ready to hit on girls. You will never be in good enough shape. You will never have a big enough dick. You will never be able to do enough strokes. You will never have enough money. You will never be ready because you will always find something new to fix before you start. But you must start.
This is the oath you must take. “I will keep approaching girls until I bang 100 babes.”
Everything I talk about is useless unless you are trying to have sex with women. What is the point of having a bigger dick if you don’t stretch out a girl with it? What is the point of being able to do 5000 strokes if there is no girl to stroke inside of? What is the point of having sex toy unless you have a girl to use them with?
Make the pledge to approach. Don’t use the fleshlight edging program, which I’ll be introducing shortly, as either an excuse to not approach or as a substitute for girls. It is neither. It is a tool to be used to get better results out of your sex life. It is not meant to be your sex life.
But I am not good with women.
No one is good with women, but some are better than others. Very few of my people remain. Scotty of GLL is still around and offers insights into cold approaching. Andy Wells is another. Andy’s content is cater to Online dating, self-love, and threesomes. Other than those two, I don’t have any suggestions about who to learn from. Regardless, make the promise to approach girls until you have 100+ lays. And do this program I am about to present in conjunction with approaching.
Overview of the battle plan
I have an two prong attack against premature ejaculation. I subject myself to both endurance training and edging with the fleshlight. Here are the two goals I am aiming for and that I suggest:
1. 5000 strokes with the Fleshlight S.T.U in a 60-90 minute session.
2. Being able to run a mile in 9 minutes.
We will touch on the Edging with the Fleshlight first (Because that is what a lot of you want to read about) but understand this is a two prong attack. But first, I have an important message for you.
Climaxing, The Greatest of Compliments
Before I present the tactics that I use, I want to present a different attitude toward climaxing too soon. You climaxing is the greatest compliment you can give a girl. It tells her that she was hot and tight enough to make you come. No girls wants to get pounded for an hour just for the guy to stop and say “I’m board with you.” That would be a major blow to her ego and self-esteem.
Now, I understand no guy wants to be a minute-man, and that is what we are here to talk about, but you don’t want to be a guy that never comes. So you have ask if the 5000 strokes/hour long session is really desirable. On paper, it sounds awesome. In reality, you might find it not so fun. My hunch is that if you pounded a girl for more than 30 minutes straight, both you and her would start to ache. Both of you would wish for release. Would you keep going? Or would you stop and risk her thinking that she wasn’t hot or tight enough to satisfy you? Neither are great options. Who knows, maybe you find a pound queen begging that you never stop.
If you are a guy who climaxes too soon. Tell her the truth after the fact: I came too quickly because you are so hot and tight (this will boost her ego despite your performance). If you are a guy who takes forever to climax, tell her before hand. Tell her that you have stamina so this session might be longer than what she is use to. This makes it sound like it is you, not her.
Story Time: I was bar tending an orgy once and I saw a girl cry—like someone just died crying—because she couldn’t make her man come. For some girls, this is a major deal. Don’t ignore it.
Introducing the Fleshlight
The Fleshlight is a pocket pussy, and they are the number # 1 sex toy in the world. They are easy to use, clean, and collect (they have dozens of different sleeves). You just get an erection, apply a little lube, and stroke yourself with them. It is way better then masturbating yourself. This and the Bathmate are the first two sex toys I suggest men, women, or couples buy.
I was introduced to the Fleshlight by a girl named Haley. We were in my kitchen one night, and she asks me “do you have Fleshlight?”
The question caught me off guard—it was one of the most left-field questions I’ve ever been asked. I played dumb and pretended not to know what it was.
She explained how she had one because she found it fun to use with guys and how she wanted to play with me that night. The experience taught me a very important lesson: girls like toys just as much as guys, maybe even more.
Needless to say, I purchased my first Fleshlight shortly after the encounter.
The three basic Fleshlight Sleeves
There are three sleeves that I believe you should consider buying if you are new to the Fleshlight. They are the original sleeve, the stamina training unit sleeve, and the super tight sleeve. Here is my experience with them all.
The original sleeve is a lot of fun. While I can’t do 5000 strokes with it, I can do over 2000. It is a lot of fun. It was while using this sleeve I realized how much 5000 strokes are. After hitting 2000, I started to ache a little in my hips. I started to beg for release. This is a fantastic sleeve to start out with.
Once you hit 5000 strokes with the original sleeve, I would upgrade to the Stamina training unit. The Anal version of this sleeve is a personal favorite of mine. This sleeve is far more intense than the original. It is a little more tighter and has a bumpy texture inside of it. The best I’ve ever been able to do with this sleeve is a little over 1000 strokes.
The super tight sleeve I find is more intense yet. I currently use this one just for pleasure and not edging. However, one day I’d like to be able to do 5000 strokes with it as well.
My overall advice would be to pick up the original sleeve, get 5000 strokes, then move onto the S.T.U. Once you master the S.T.U you can move onto the super tight sleeve or any of the Fleshlight girl sleeves for a more intense edging session.
Lube
Fleshlight sells six flavors of lube. They are Water, Fire, Ice, Anal Glide, Hybrid, and Silicone. I have experimented with each type. I will go through each one and tell of my experience with them.
Water is the most standard of lube. Everyone should get this because of how neutral it is. Using this lube and the original sleeve, you can achieve a long edging session. I would recommend that your first month on edging is just with this lube.
Fire is the next lube. I don’t love this lube. While I enjoy the burning sensation, it evaporates too quickly. Due to the quick evaporation, there is a lot of friction at the start and it kinda hurts. You have to use a lot of this lube and do at least 10 minutes of stroking before the sensation gets good. For some people this might be a good feeling, but for me, not so much.
Ice is the next lube. I was surprised how much I like this lube. It ranks number 3 for me. It has mint smell to it which I enjoy. This might be my favorite lube to edge with despite its icy sting. I would differently give this and Water a try at the start of your Fleshlight experience.
Anal Glide is my second favorite lube. It feels great and you don’t need to use a lot to get going. In fact, I loved this lube so much that I stopped trying the other ones when I first made my purchase. It is not as good as water or ice for edging, but in terms of pleasure it is amazing.
Hybrid is my favorite lube. It kicks ass. The sensation is just awesome, and I think it works decently for an edging lube. Honestly, I want to try this lube with a girl; that is how much I love it. I highly recommend this.
Silicone is the last lube, and it is last. I tried edging with this and it did not feel great. I found that there was too much friction, similar to the Fire. Maybe I didn’t apply enough, but I didn’t enjoy using this lube. I’m not saying it is bad, I’m saying that I didn’t enjoy it.
The Mounting bracket & sleeve warmer
Now that you’ve selected your sleeve and lube, I suggest that you also pick up a mounting bracket and sleeve warmer. They make the experience so much better.
The mounting bracket allow your to attach the Fleshlight to something waist height. Instead of using your hands to stroke yourself, you can thrust yourself in and out of the Fleshlight like you were having sex. I find the experience a lot better.
The sleeve warmer is another add-on you should consider. I suggest, however, that you warm your sleeve for at least 30 minutes. The only downside to this is that within 5 minutes of stroking, the warmth dies down. The Fleshlight will never have the warmth of an actually human body. However, this does help lessen the problem, making it a more enjoyable experience.
I believe the mounting bracket is a must. The sleeve warmer is a fun add-on you should consider.
The Edging Program
The golden goal for edging is 5000 strokes in a 60-90 minute window. If you can do 5000 strokes with the stamina training unit, you don’t have premature ejaculation. You’ve won the game. But how to get there?
Why with the edging program.
Approach this program like you would weight lifting. Do it 2-4 times a week, and have rest days. Keep trying to get more ‘reps’ in each session. Instead of building muscle, you are building stamina. You will have good workouts and sub-par workouts—it is part of the game. Don’t get discouraged and be patient with your progress. Now let’s look at what to actually do.
Here is a beginner routine:
- 25 strokes
- 10 second break
- 25 strokes
- 10 second break
- 25 strokes
- 30 second break
If you can repeat the above cycle 10+ times for two sessions, you can take it to the next level.
- 25 strokes
- 10 second break
- 50 strokes
- 10 second break
- 25 strokes
- 30 second break
Again, if you can repeat the above cycle 10+ times for two sessions, you can take it again to the next level.
- 50 strokes
- 10 second break
- 50 strokes
- 10 second break
- 50 strokes
- 30 second break.
Keep increasing in 25-stroke increments like I have been until you reach the following:
- 150 strokes
- 10 second break
- 200 strokes
- 10 second break
- 150 strokes.
- 30 second break.
The above will get you 5000 strokes if you can do 10 cycles of it. At that point, I would up the intensity of the fleshlight. If you are using the original sleeve, upgrade to the stamina training unit sleeve. If you are using the stamina training unit sleeve, upgrade to the super tight sleeve. Also, during the breaks, this is when you reapply a little bit of lube. You can also warm up your sleeve during the 30 second break.
Using the Fleshlight for Fun
Often, in the male enhancement community, the Fleshlight is talked about because it can be used as an edging device. In reality, the Fleshlight’s primary function is a sex toy. It can be an enjoyable sex toy at that. For personal use, I use the Jesse Jane Model. It feels amazing and I use it when I am having a stress day and need release. Some days, if my cock aches from doing a male enhancement routine in the morning, I’ll use the Fleshlight to ease the pain.
Remember, pleasure can be used as medicine.
Cleaning & Hygiene
The lack of personal hygiene in my male friends is disturbing. A lot of them have big beer bellies, have body odor, and can’t walk up a flight of stairs without being short on brief. When you walk into their homes you can see roaches doing the dishes—that’s how filthy they are. If you are like this, you need to up to hygiene, especially in regards to cleaning the Fleshlight. Don’t jizz into it for 6-months straight without ever washing it. You should clean it after every use. Hell, you should wash and clean a new one before using it.
Fleshlight sells a toy cleaner. Buy it and use it. I make sure I wash my Fleshlight and Bathmate once a week with warm water and toy cleaner. Then I let them air dry over night before putting them away. Take the time and keep clean your sex toys and male enhancement devices. Contracting an infection from a dirty device can ruin your day.
Also, be sure to keep yourself trimmed and washed in your groin area. Don’t be a bro who only showers every 4 days.
Last, diet is part of your hygiene. If you reek down there no matter how often you wash yourself, it might be your diet. Try giving up the pop and fried foods and see if the odor goes away. When I was 280, no matter how often and how hard I scrubbed, I reeked. Only after I changed my diet and lost 40 lbs did my personal stench go away. Keep clean and be clean.
The 9 Minute Mile
I am going to touch of the physical fitness aspect of this. You need mental endurance. The best physical activity that builds mental endurance is running. I hate running. But I understand its benefits. Make it you goal to be able to run a mile in 9 minutes. Again, if you can’t run a mile in 9 minutes, work your way too it. As of this article I can do a mile in 15 minutes. My goal is each week to shave 15-30 seconds off my time. Even if it was 15 seconds a week, in 6 months I would be able to do. I have weight lifting goals that will take longer to get to than that.
Conclusion
In summary, we’ve covered the following things:
- Why you should view climaxing in a positive light.
- Why you pursuing women is important.
- I’ve introduced the Fleshlight.
- I’ve provided a basic edging routine.
- I’ve talked about being able to run a mile in 9-minutes.
With the above information, you can start taking the journey to combat your premature ejaculation and have sexual sessions that end on your terms.
I wish you the bet of luck,
—O.J. Light